Men's Therapy
Therapy that fits the bloke who's never done it before.
Most men I see have spent a long time being the one who handles things. The work here isn't about handing that over — it's about doing it without it costing you everything underneath.
Why men's mental health, specifically.
Men in Australia die by suicide at three times the rate of women. They drink more, get less sleep, and are far less likely to talk to a GP about their mental health. None of that is news. What's quieter — and what therapy is actually useful for — is the much larger group of men who are functioning fine on paper but feel disconnected, restless, angry, or numb.
I've worked almost exclusively with men for the last eight years because the conversations are different, the openings are different, and what gets in the way is different. The work itself is the same evidence-based therapy any psychologist offers — it just lands better when the room understands the shape of your day.
When to come in
Some quiet signs.
- You've been telling everyone you're fine for a while now.
- The drink at the end of the day has stopped feeling optional.
- You wake up at 3am and can't get back under.
- You're shorter with your partner, your kids, or your colleagues than you mean to be.
- You're quietly wondering if this is it.
- You've stopped doing the things you used to enjoy.
- You can't remember the last time you laughed properly.
- Something happened — and you don't think you've actually dealt with it.
None of these on their own mean anything's wrong. Three or four together is usually a good signal that a conversation might be worth having.
The territory.
I'm a generalist clinician who works mostly with men. These are the things that come up most often — but plenty of what we work on doesn't fit neatly under any of these labels.
Anxiety
Generalised anxiety, social anxiety, performance anxiety, the panic that lands out of nowhere. We work on the body's response, the thoughts feeding it, and the avoidance that quietly makes it bigger over time.
Low mood & depression
From the long flat patch that you can't quite shake, through to clinical depression. Behavioural activation, cognitive work, and the slower work of figuring out what's been taken offline and how to bring it back.
Stress & burnout
Workload, identity, perfectionism, the bloke who's been the reliable one for too long. We map the cost honestly and work out what could change — usually less dramatically than you'd think.
Relationships
Marriage drift, communication breakdowns, the patterns you brought from home that you swore you wouldn't repeat. Individual therapy, but with one eye always on the people around you.
Anger & emotional regulation
The short fuse, the freeze, the things you say or do that you wish you hadn't. Anger usually has a job — we figure out what yours is, and we build new responses that aren't as expensive.
The harder stuff
Trauma, grief, identity questions, complicated family histories. I'm trained in EMDR for trauma processing. If something heavier is sitting in the room with you, we can work with that too.
How I work
The shape of the work.
Therapy isn't magic and it isn't long. The point is to get you somewhere useful, and then to stop. Most men land in a 6–12 session arc, but it depends on what you bring.
Land the plane.
Session one is mostly listening. You give me the shape of what's going on. I ask where I need to. By the end we'll have a working sense of what we're trying to shift.
Find the patterns.
Sessions two through five or six. We map the loops — what triggers the thing, what keeps it running, what older beliefs are quietly underneath. This is where most of the change starts.
Build something better.
Practical responses, lived in. Tested in your actual life — work, partner, kids, gym, whatever. We adjust what isn't working and keep what is. We stop when you've got what you came for.
What I draw on
Evidence-based, plainly applied.
A handful of approaches I lean on most. I'll usually mix two or three depending on what we're working on — and I'll tell you what I'm doing and why.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
Practical, well-evidenced. Useful when thoughts and behaviours are reinforcing each other in ways that aren't serving you.
Acceptance & Commitment Therapy
Less about fighting your thoughts, more about choosing what you actually want your life to point at. Useful for stuckness and meaning.
Schema Therapy
For the older patterns — the beliefs and modes that got installed early and keep running on autopilot. Slower work, deeper change.
Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing
For trauma and stuck memories. Effective, well-supported, often less talky than people expect. I'm trained to Level II.
Motivational Interviewing
Useful when there's ambivalence — the part of you that wants to change and the part that doesn't. We work with both.
Whatever else fits
Mindfulness, somatic work, narrative approaches. The model serves the person, not the other way around.
I came in for the anxiety. Six sessions in I realised the anxiety was about something else entirely. That's the thing he's good at — finding the actual question.
Worth a first session?
One hour, no commitment beyond it. If we're not the right fit I'll happily point you at someone who is.